Saturday, July 31, 2010


Who in the world thinks that only a guy has an ego the size of the Himalayas? Trust me when I say girls may have egos that size as well!

I'm no expert on ego. But here is what I think. =]

Well, ego. Lets start with what that is. Us, humans, are often in the illusion of being a special individual different from the rest of God's creations. Be it animals or even...other humans. Ego makes someone believe that we must fight for ourselves to survive in the world. We are most important to ourselves. Nothing else comes before that. I believe that most of the time, we are unaware of our own human nature. It drives us to do things that will assure it's own future. Simply put, it makes us think that we are preserving our dignity and image.

"A lot of people have this ego need that makes them want to believe that Earth is the center of the universe and humans are the most important species, the supreme expression of creation."
-Ann Druyan-

This is where Egotism comes in. Egotism is the motivation to maintain and enhance favourable views on oneself. Egotism means placing oneself at the centre of one'd world with no direct concern for others, including those loved or considered close. In short, a self-centred person.

"Avoid having your ego so close to your position that when your position falls,
your ego goes with it." 

Now, what I believe is that girls can be as egoistic as well! It may be different from guys. Ultimately it is about taking great care of one's self-image, self-esteem and dignity. A guy's ego will be hurt if you call him a coward. Don't they usually want to be known as brave? Well, which guy doesn't want to? It is not just about being brave to jump in front of a bullet or climbing the tallest building or fighting someone else. Brave at anything really. For example, are you brave enough to go an speak on stage? A girl's ego may be different. How about not making the wrong decisions? Pushing the decision making to someone else so that if a mistake is made, it is not your fault. Never wanting to lose a fight. Well, that's definitely ego! Oh and what about not wanting people to realise you had a bad hair day? Or that you need make up to hide that you cried? Well, that's ego for you!

"The excitement that you were feeling about a special, unique path for yourself as a woman is all part of your identification with and attachment to being female. And that's ultimately all ego."
-Andrew Cohen-

So, still think a girl's ego cannot match up to a guy's? Think again!

P/S: I think 'kiasu' people are quite egoistic. =]

Friday, July 16, 2010


The problem with ambiguous posts, whether in blogs or Facebook or Twitter or Plurk, is that you don't know who it is meant for. But the beauty is that it can mean anyone in general. I have no idea why some people become so sensitive about every little thing other people write about. It may be coincidentally related but it might not just be you. Plus, you are not even able to make sure it is about you until you ask!

So why be so angry and about something and insult that person with profanities before confirming that it is about you? Oh, better yet, why not tell the person directly instead of doing it ambiguously as well? If you are thinking that I am a coward for not directing it at you, then look at your own doing. Not brave enough to face me and ask me what I mean by it? So who's the coward now? Oh well, I think the real coward is you. Want to know why? Because you are so afraid that what people say is about you, you jump like a monkey stepped on its tail and run off screeching to climb up high in a tree where you hide and cower amongst the leaves.

I just do not get the way people think. You can complain about not having anyone trustworthy enough as a friend. Then hurt others who actually meant nothing by anything. Then complain about being lonely. I just do not get anyone who thinks that way.

And...if you think in this post I mean YOU (yes, you, the person reading this right now), then by all means go ahead and think whatever you want. I won't mind. Just don't be absurd about it. Don't overreact.

Have a great day. :D